Oneday, back in school, a junior approached me and said, “Ernest, what do we have to kill inside us to be able to live happily and peacefully?” I was shocked and baffled, immediately, I paused a minute and asked him “Why that question?”. He said he always get jealous and angry with the least things. I smiled.
My reply was simple but one that left the angry guy appeased and inspired. “To be able to live happily and peacefully,” I replied, “one has to kill anger, for anger itself kills happiness and peace.” I was a victim of that myself and I still do fight it everyday.
The guy reflected on the answer and decided to stay calm.
Few days later, I was in the mess hall for lunch. I was tested again. A Senior approached me to inspect my cutlery. I didn’t have my cutlery set intact. He got so furious and threw my plate away. I quietly walked out of the hall. I was glad I controlled myself.
A good friend approached me and asked why I didn’t report him for this abusive act. In my calm state I asked him, “If you offered some food to a guest who came to your house, and the guest left without eating any of it, who would the food belong to?” he conceded that the food would belong to him. I further said, “In the same way, I do not wish to accept his abuse, so the abuse belongs to him.” he said gently, Ernest you are right.
Lessons to be learnt from my experience.
1. Don’t reply wrong with wrong
2. Anyone who angers you has conquered you.
3.Sometimes it is better to be kind than right because we don’t need a brilliant mind that speaks but a patient heart that listens.
4. An insincere friend is to be feared than a wild beast because a wild beast will wound your body but an insincere friend will wound your mind.
5. When wealth is lost , nothing is lost. When health is lost, something is lost, but when character is lost everything is lost.
It is well